Leslie M. John
“It has been said, Whosoever shall put away his wife, let him give her a writing of divorcement: But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, except for the cause of fornication, causes her to “commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced commits adultery. (Matthew 5:31-32)
Lord Jesus Christ has spoken out sternly about the relationship between the spouses. He stressed on marriage between man and woman; and against divorce, except for moral reasons. God intended from the beginning marriage between man and woman; and never was divorce allowed. That is to say the divorce was allowed only in the case of fornication; otherwise, all the cases of divorce are to be treated as committing or causing the spouse to commit adultery.
Pharisees testing Him questioned as to whether it was lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause. The Lord in turn questioned them if they have not read in the Scriptures that He who had made them at the beginning made them male and female and said “For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they two shall be one flesh?”
The marriage is sacred in the sight of God, and the union between man and woman is to become one flesh, and never to be separated under any circumstances except for fornication. The Lord gave a very stern instruction that “what God has joined together, let no man put asunder”.
Trying to catch the Lord on some point Pharisees questioned Him further as to why Moses then commanded to give writing in divorcement, and put her away!
“When a man has taken a wife, and married her, and it comes to pass that she finds no favor in his eyes, because he has found some uncleanness in her: then let him write her a bill of divorcement, and put it in her hand, and send her out of his house. And when she is departed out of his house, she may go and be another man’s wife” (Deuteronomy 24:1-2)
The Lord replied to them saying Moses allowed men in those days to put away their wives because of their hardness of hearts; but from the beginning it was not so. God never allowed divorce from the beginning; nevertheless Moses allowed it because of their unrest and discontentment. He also added another important instruction about eunuchs. It was in reply to the dilemma caused by His disciples. He said, it is not given for all; but for those that debility is given let them have it, which means their salvation is not dependent on their physical debility, but on their spiritual relationship with God. A specific case in point can be seen in Acts 8th Chapter where the salvation of a eunuch is recorded.
“And as they went on their way, they came unto a certain water: and the eunuch said, See, here is water; what doth hinder me to be baptized?” (Acts 8:36)
The Lord said…
“All men cannot receive this saying, only they to whom it is given. For there are some eunuchs, who were so born from their mother’s womb: and there are some eunuchs, who were made eunuchs of men: and there are eunuchs, who have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven’s sake. He that is able to receive it, let him receive it” (cf. Matthew 19:3-12; Mark 10:1-12)
Keeping in mind the Lord’s words, Apostle Paul explains in Ephesians 5:21-33 the relationship between husband and wife. Christ loved the church and gave Himself for it, in order that He might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word that He might present it to Himself a glorious church (cf. Ephesians 5:21-33).
In the beginning after God has created heavens, earth, light, sun and moon, plants, flying birds, animals, and creeping things, He created man and when He saw that man was alone, the LORD made a woman out of one of the ribs of man as a helpmate, and the man, Adam, called his wife as his bone of his bones and flesh of his flesh.
“And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man”. (Genesis 2:23)
Basing his command on the Lord’ instructions, Apostle Paul says to the married that wife should not depart from her husband. However, if she departs, she should remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband. Husband is not allowed to put away his wife, except for moral reasons. The relationship between husband and wife is sublime and to in conformity with the scriptures. (cf. Ephesians 5:21-33)